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Lots of men are trying to understand what they are feeling and why they are feeling it when it comes to sexual submissive behavior.

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Early memories of a sexual submissive

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My earliest memories about why I enjoy confinement and restraint come from when I was 5 years old.  I went on a plane by myself to see my Grandma.  It was a wonderful trip.  My cousin traveled separately and we all stayed at Grandma’s apartment. She had a pool.  She had toys and games and fresh squeezed orange juice, which we made ourselves, and scented Mr. Sketch markers. 

I was very skinny and when I got out of the pool I’d be freezing and my teeth would chatter so my grandma helped me get dried off and get my PJs on and then she spread out a blanket on the floor and rolled me up in it so only my head poked out.  “Snug as a bug in a rug”, she would say.  I remember feeling warmed and loved and I had a 5 yr. old’s boner. 

I played that roll up in the blanket game many times after that never knowing exactly why it gave me a boner or what a boner even was.  I got my baby sitter to do it to me.  I don’t think she knew it was giving me a boner.  I got the girls a few doors away to roll me up in a rug.  I’m sure they thought it was weird.  I enjoyed the feeling of giving up control. 

Over time I found that tight clothes, especially panty hose or nylon material were very arousing.  Tying myself up or confining myself in some way was a great escape and stress relief.  I learned about bondage from the internet and as I have learned more and been exposed to more I have found lots of things I like: spandex, leather cuffs, ball gags, nipple clamps, blindfolds, hogties etc.  I have also found a lot of stuff I don’t like: humiliation, anger, actual punishment, hitting, whips, degradation.  Although I am into bondage I only want it to be a loving and caring experience. 

I control a lot of stuff now and in my work life I play a dominant role every day.  I like to be in charge and I think I am a benevolent type of leader but I’m still the boss and people know it.  I think this contributes to my desire to submit myself.   

I wouldn’t just submit myself to anybody and in fact, I never have.  I only do self-bondage.  The person I want to subordinate myself to has to be deserving and benevolent.  First of all, she has to be strong, confident, articulate and beautiful.  Even more important, she has to be kind and trustworthy and genuinely care about me and my wellbeing. It’s asking a lot and it’s hard to find a match. 

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Submissive Psychology

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Why do I want my lover to tie me up, blindfold me, gag me, and use toys on me? Is there something wrong with me?

I discovered my interest in bondage at an early age. It excited me to be tied up but I didn’t know why and because the excitement involved getting an erection, I couldn’t talk about it.

I’m a Catholic from the Midwest. We didn’t discuss sex when I was growing up in the Midwest not to mention BDSM. I felt completely alone and I worried that I was broken somehow, a bad seed for wanting what I wanted.

After a while I saw I was not alone but most of the people who were like me were pretty extreme and most of the examples of bondage I found were pretty extreme. People who wore leather and chains when I was growing up were more likely to be gay bikers. I was envious of their willingness to come out in the open and just be who they were but I couldn’t do that so I felt even more alone and concerned that I was sick. Maybe I needed to seek help?

I am reasonably well educated so I used the library back when there was no internet to research. Throughout high school and college I was looking for answers.

The first question I was concerned about personally from a very young age was something like: am I crazy because I like this? CRAZY – as in mentally insane? Am I dangerous? What is WRONG with me?

Early answers were not encouraging. In fact, until 2010, BDSM was considered a mental illness in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). Because of this classification people could lose custody of children in divorce. There was real discrimination and people lost jobs.

Dr. Ray Blanchard outlined the proposal which ultimately resulted in an update to DSM-5 with an important distinction for BDSM. This behavior is now considered a paraphilia. I think of paraphilia is a general term for kinks. The distinction is between paraphilia and paraphilic disorder. This is something I knew intuitively about my own behavior. A paraphilic disorder is one that is causing impairment to the individual or harm to others. As long as it’s not hurting me and I am not hurting anyone the the behavior is not pathological. For further reading check out this Hastings Center article. 

Now it’s 2020. Ten years later. Fifty shades of Grey (which I do not recommend) has apparently opened many eyes. Now more and more people in surveys admit to an interest and experimentation with light bondage and other fantasy. I can be a submissive male and it’s OK. I’m not running around telling everyone and I wouldn’t put it on my resume so it’s still a little strange for me. I know I’m not sick but I’m still hiding this part of myself. That is OK for now because its a very intimate part of myself that I only share with my Beloved Monster, Vinyl.

I wonder how long before more people openly acknowledge they are sexually submissive or dominant. People with very specific fetishes will be among the last holdouts. Who wants to admit they are super into…let your imagination run wild here.

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Snug as a bug in a rug

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At age five I went on a trip to visit my grandma and after we went swimming I was so cold! She wrapped me up tightly in a blanket, kind of rolling me up in it with my arms at my sides and she sat me up leaning me up against the couch and the feeling of tightness and not being able to move my arms or get out gave me a five year old’s erection. “You’re snug as a bug in a rug” she said. I felt warm and happy and loved.

I had a weak sex education that arrived well after it was needed. Certainly nothing in my formal education ever explained why I might be turned on by the idea of getting tied up. I never understood why getting rolled up in a blanket gave me an erection or why I was having thoughts about about being held captive by various strong female figures. I would roll myself up and struggle and one day, I ejaculated, my first orgasm. I didn’t even know what had happened at the time.

It would seem in my case that a combination of nature and nurture have lead me to where I am today. I have a natural, as far as I can tell, affinity for bondage but I have been exposed to images and examples my whole life.

Catwoman clearly did a lot to expose this interest for many men. Several episodes of the 1960’s version of batman gave me a raging boner. When Batman or Robin or both were captured and tied up by the confident catwoman, as she strutted around the stage, I was so desperate to be either one of them but especially, Batman because it was clear that she really loved him.

I would speculate that there are more images and examples of bondage in the mainstream than ever before. I will come back to this post and add examples but for reference you can also see this wikipedia article: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM_in_culture_and_media

I want to see examples of loving and caring femdom relationships become more common in the media. I’ll be looking for ways to create and promote those.

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Furry Vinyl Day 1

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Hello and welcome to FurryVinyl.com!

!!WARNING!!  This is an adult website and I will post and share information intended for adults only.  The material here is not appropriate for people under age 18.  If this is you, please leave now.

This site is focused on understanding and improving awareness of loving, gentle female dominance and what appears to be a growing trend toward male submission and female authority.  Furry Vinyl will explore the psychology and the sexuality of femdom relationships.

The subject is wildly misunderstood.  What you can find on the internet is likely to leave you with images of extreme dominatrix costumes and equally extreme humiliation and punishment of male (and female) slaves.  Furry Vinyl is completely in favor of doing whatever floats your boat.  We’re going to get kinky here.

However, let’s imagine a less extreme, more symbiotic and loving relationship where both parties experience joy, tremendous physical pleasure and positive growth.  Imagine a place where a woman can come into and enjoy her full power with confidence that her man truly, madly, passionately loves and even worships her and will do anything she asks. A safe place where a man who must otherwise remain strong at all times can finally let his guard down and let go of control.  Furry Vinyl will be that place.

Here, you will find references to quality ideas and information on the subject. Furry has stories to tell and fantasies to document.  He is also getting his fun toys shopping list ready.  FurryVinyl.com is a place to find and share information, make connections and learn.

Best Regards,

Furry